Racially based dating preferences are not made in a vacuum and I’m really tired of hearing that excuse
Because I have yet to hear an explanation about why someone doesn’t date a poc group that didn’t involve an extremely racist ass stereotype embedded in white supremacy and…
But really the argument of ‘i don’t find this race attractive’ is sorta gross because you are literally counting out an entire group of people because of their skin or looks (as that’s what you’re implying). I don’t understand how that isn’t racist or at the very least shallow
I think my point is that theres a difference between saying “I don’t find this race attractive at all” and “this race isn’t as attractive to me in general” and not using it as a catch all. Sort oh how you might say “I usually don’t find red hair as attractive as brown hair” but you would never say “I would never date a red head” or “red heads are not attractive.
I don’t know it might just be me because I don’t really get either of those points you have made. I mean how do people think one hair color is better than the other they’re all pretty? like mousy brown hair is supposed to look bad or something? I know it tends to be the hair color du jour for the “meek unpretty girls”, but it’s pretty like all other hair colors i don’t get it. And same with people like I don’t understand how people make sweeping generalizations about appearance it confuses me. Like i can understand on a case by case basis, but how can you say race x is more attractive than race y because that is going to include preconceived images of people?? I mean how do you decide.
I think what I am saying is that everyone has personal preferences for what they find attractive. Like in the red head example it wouldn’t be that you dont find red heads attractive maybe you just find darker hair more attractive in your own opinion. So like a darker brown would be more attractive than a red head. But there are some people with really dark red hair and some with really light brown hair so it isn’t an absolute rule. And maybe you find darker skin more attractive. So someone of a race with darker skin might be more attractive to you than someone of a race with lighter skin. Like if you go around saying that everyone with any attribute isn’t attractive you are being a jerk no matter what. But someone can be more likely to find a person of a certain race attractive than of a different race but you would never say x person is unatractive or attractive because of her race
I just can’t wrap my head around it. Like the closest thing I can think of is that I find guys with beards very attractive, but not all the times. But those are things that are controllable by the people, unlike hair color or skin color.